My husband smelled like home.
It was back in 2024, when he was being oriented as a new employee. I was bustling around on the phone with my hair tied up, having not even had time to wash my face properly.
My husband has lots of dark moles on his face—that was the very first thing I noticed about him.
Little did I know, he would become my love. Two years have passed, and now we have a baby boy together.
Via Cambridge Dictionary: Marriage is a legally accepted relationship between two people in which they live together, or the official ceremony that results in this.
On our first few dates, he told me he wasn’t a gentleman and didn’t like helping strangers. Yet, he was always the one spotting and helping anyone in need whenever the opportunity arose. To him, it wasn’t chivalry—it was just “common sense.”
I was so angry back in 2024. I felt I deserved a bigger raise, that my work should be more recognized and complimented by others. He ignored my venting at first. Then, day by day, repeatedly, he started asking me questions:
- Are you doing things that actually help you grow?
- Are you delivering good results?
Life doesn’t change rapidly like in the movies. Or, as he likes to say: “A man of his word is a fool” (Quân tử nhất ngôn là quân tử ngu). In his view, the things that matter must be repeated intensely so we don’t forget them. He constantly asks me about my delivery, my growth, and my commitment. He always reminds me to focus—that I can’t do scrap work anymore, and that I need to focus on what actually matters.
He is a developer, but surprisingly, he doesn’t always love developing. He is a person of context, music, movies, and art. Being the youngest son, according to him, he wasn’t the smartest. He states that he simply inherited good traits and karma from his family—his dad and older brother.
He viewed IT as a strength that could earn a living, nothing more. When AI came along, at a time when everyone else was resistant to the idea, he felt relieved. He knew he wouldn’t have to do scrap coding anymore; AI could take over the repetitive tasks. With AI, he would have space to think about business, product strategy, data architecture, and of course, movies, comics, and art.
He doesn’t like traveling because it’s uncomfortable and time-wasting (I feel the same way). He prefers absorbing details through books. He knows so much about authors, cinema, art, and games. Playing games on Steam was his entire life before we were married.
Yes, I love my man. Not because of what he brings to the table financially, but for his compassion, his absolute truthfulness about how he feels, and his willingness to always walk beside me.
No, I can’t give you the exact meaning of marriage. It isn’t just a chemical spark; it’s about being truthful and dynamically tethered to your partner. A family already exists the moment you pay attention to the small details you both enjoy every single day.
